COMMITMENT; WHAT SAYS YOU?

Ever think about marriage? Commitment? Tipulah kalau aku cakap aku tak pernah terfikir ke arah itu semua. I'm normal, and straight. Of course I would like to get married one day. I'm not going to tell you when, or who's am gonna spend my life with. Just a random talk as a single (not taken) woman as I am now.

Perkahwinan hukumnya adalah harus bagi umat Islam. So in other words, sesiapa yang cukup syarat-syarat yang telah digariskan dalam Islam, maka harus baginya berkahwin. In doesn't matter how old are you, or how young your partner is. When you're ready to have a commitment, there's nothing to be afraid of. Just go for it.

TAPI. Mentaliti orang zaman sekarang, takut bila berbicara soal perkahwinan. It's either they're afraid of the responsibility, or people talking bad behind them. Marriage is not only about having sex, you know? You are about to spend the whole life of yours together. Make it high or low, you have each other. Forever. 

"Aku nak kawen tapi aku takutla. Bukan apa, gf aku tu tak kerja. Kalau aku kawen nanti macamana nak bagi dia makan? Gaji aku ni pon cukup untuk makan pakai aku sendiri jek,"

"Aku nak kawen, tapi selagi bf aku tak sediakan rumah dengan kereta. Aku tak nak kawen dengan dia. Oh, did I mention he need to have his OWN house?"

"Aku suka anak aku finally nak kawen, but then bakal isterinya tu orang Perak la pulak. Ish, aku tak berkenan pulak dengan orang belah-belah sana tu,"

Pernah dengar? Happens to some people you know? Untuk Situasi 1; aku faham dilema mereka. Honestly, me myself once had a thought just exactly like that. Speaking of expenses right? Bills, cars, house rent, etc. One can't hardly afford if they had only a thousands or two for salary. Let alone after having a child. Things ain't that easy. Tapi janji Tuhan itu pasti. Rezeki ada di mana-mana. 

Situasi 2 : Memang tak kawenla kau sampai bila-bila! Unless you've found a filthy rich guy, then I won't question you anything. Orang nak pakai duit selepas kahwin, dia sibuk nak itu ini sebelum kahwin. Camana? Bersabar sikitlah dik ooii.. Rezeki tak datang bergolek. What is wrong kalau you start one by one? Baby baru lahir pun tak terus berlari kan?

Situasi 3 : Anak yang nak kahwin, tapi mak-ayah menyulitkan keadaan. Makcik, pakcik. Sanggup ke tanggung dosa anak ke hulu ke hilir tanpa ikatan yang sah? Apa salahnya kalau mereka daripada rumpun yang lain? Sekurang-kurangnya, dia ada niat yang baik ingin mendirikan masjid. Sepatutnya sebagai ibu-bapa, haruslah menggalakkan pernikahan untuk mengelakkan maksiat. Ini macam terbalik pulak.

My says? If you are ready to take the responsibility, why not you go for it? Marry him / her. Let other people say everything they wanted to. Mulut orang bukan kita boleh tutup kan? At least bila dah kahwin, hubungan tu dah sah di sisi agama. Bukan itu ke yang paling penting? So, what says you?