NEW CHAPTER.

Assalamualaikum and hi to everyone. Is there still a reader? If have, you are the real MVP. Sigh. Looking back, I dont have much more time like I always do then. Huuuuu..rindu betul nak membebel kat sini. Meh nak amek recap sket. 

2 Mei 2015, aku dah selamat bernikah dengan En Q dengan sekali lafaz. Alhamdulillah. Perkenalan kami yang tak sampai pon 2 tahun, tapi aku yakin. He is the one. Always my Mr. Right. How do I know he's the one? Actually I don't. But I am sure he is. Wuuuuuu. Drama betul. Aku cuma buat tumpang nikah kat majlis adik aku je sebab dia yang sebenarnya nak kawen (boleh buat tajuk drama) so for my side no sanding no makan damai no cutting cake NOT YET. Sila baca kat situ. NOT YET. Perancangan untuk majlis resepsi tetap ada. Tunggguuuuuuuu....

So sekarang officially I am a wife. Takde istilah separuh masa ke isteri hujung minggu ke apa ke. Kehidupan aku dah bertukar terussss 360 darjah celcius. Kalau dulu tak kisah apa aku nak masak, apa aku nak buat, mana aku nak pergi, siapa aku nak jumpa takde siapa berani persoalkan. Tapi sekarang semua dah berubah. Nak masak kena fikir untuk dua orang, nak keluar kena minta izin, nak jumpa sesiapa kena minta izin. Yelah, nama pun dah berkahwin. Yang paling aku suka, mana - mana aku pergi semua dah berteman. Heehehehe..no more lone ranger. Kalau dulu shopping barang sendiri cakap sorang - sorang, la ni berdua dok ke hulu ke hilir. Say no more, enjoy the pics! 

p/s :: And I am very happy now. Weeeeee ~~

Buku Baru.

Pejam celik pejam celik, dah masuk tahun baru  bulan baru. Sekejap betul masa berlalu tinggalkan kita. Ke aku je yang rasa macam tu? Hehehee... So much has happened last year. Just name it. Make it good or bad thing, I manage to survive it somehow. I guess you'll be needed more than that to bring me down peeps. Lol.


Sejak - sejak ni rasa macam banyak betul benda yang aku fikirkan. Sampai stress tak tau nak fikir yang mana satu. Hahahaha..lucky Q has always been around me to comfort me down. Kalau tak, ada yang check - in pusat rawatan mental lak kang. Cehh..


By the way, betulla cakap orang kan. 2nd phase of getting married was the most challenging ever. Aku tak tau tentang middle age crisis since I didn't experience it yet, but seriously. Betul - betul mencabar. Pasal benda - benda kecik pon boleh jadi isu. Perkara besar - besar elok pulak sembang. Kadang - kadang aku pon tak faham. It is just me, or everybody else also feels the same? Sigh. But it is good for us to get to know each other well. Masa ni la nak tau sikit sebanyak perangai masing - masing kot? Hahahaa..


Kalau masih tak terlambat, nak wish Selamat Tahun Baru. Buku baru seharusnya dan sebaik - baiknya di penuhi dengan azam - azam yang  tak pernah belum dicapai. Atau mungkin ada sesuatu yang baru boleh add - on dalam wishlist maybe? Wishlist aku? Errrrr..entah ek.. Aku cuma harap perancangan tahun ni berjalan dengan baik seperti apa yang dirancang. Kita hanya merancang, Tuhan yang tentukan segala - galanya. Insyaallah.

One Step Closer. #06122014

As I grew older, 

I walk forward and leaving everything behind,

Too fast until some people just gave up and left,

Until I met you,

One I never thought, 

Could catching up with me. 

Maybe it wasn't as easy as it may seems,

Similarities but still fighting over unnecessary,

Difference yet agreed on each other's word,

But we are managing it well, aren't we?

Thanks for standing by,

When I'm bad and terrified,

Thanks for lending me a shoulder,

As tears and fear has been the worst company,

But now the pain have gone away,

Keeping me safe by the hand of yours. 

#06122014

P/s : Thanks for making this come true.. 

Surprise.

Last week, I went for a holiday after loooongg working hours. I was thinking to celebrate someone's birthday. It's a surprise though, and it really worth it.

I drive alone and I enjoy every hour of it. Lama rasanya tak berjalan jauh - jauh. Syok pulak rasa makan angin. Plus a surprise, so aku rasa cam excited nak sampai. Cakap banyak pon tak guna. Lets have a look. Hehehehe...

Ni rumah lama kitorang sebelum abah bersara and we moved to Johor. Rindu nak masuk dalam base ni jumpa kawan - kawan lama dari dulu tapi apakan daya abah tak bagi kitorang travel jejauh dulu sensorang. Huuuuuu... Tapi sekarang mostly kawan - kawan aku pun dah pindah sebab bapak masing - masing dah bersara kan. Gambar #3 tempat aku main lari - lari kalau lambat pergi sekolah. Hehehehe..

Babaii. Kang panjang umur datang lagi. Hehehehe.. Lagipun dah 11 tahun kan pindah dari sini. Banyak betul perubahan. 

Okay. Since kata tadi celebrating a birthday. Meh sini nak tengok gambar orang muka excited dapat kek. Dan surprise. Dan hadiah. 

P/s : Nampak tak muka eksaited beliau? Hahahahahaha..

Happy birthday. May you have more and more to celebrate.. Lalalala..

All I Have To Give

Backstreet Boys - All I Have To Give

I don't know what he does to make you cry

But I'll be there to make you smile

I don't have a fancy car

To get to you, I'd walk a thousand miles

I don't care if he buys you nice things

Does his gifts come from the heart?

I don't know, but if you were my girl

I'd make it so we'd never be apart

But my love is all I have to give

Without you I don't think I can live

I wish I could give the world to you

But love is all I have to give

When you talk, does it seem like he's not

Even listenin' to a word you say?

That's okay, baby, just tell me your problems

I'll try my best to kiss them all away

Does he leave when you need him the most?

Does his friends get all your time?

Baby please, I'm on my knees

Prayin' for the day that you'll be mine

Hey girl, I don't want you to cry no more inside, oh

All the money in the world could never add up to

All the love I have inside, I love you, baby

And I will give it to you

All I can give, all I can give

All everything I have is for you

You've got what I got, you you

What I need, my love is all I have to give

All that I have is for you

But my love is all I have to give

Without you I don't think I can live

I wish I could give the world to you

But love is all I have to give to you

I have to give

Without you I don't think I can live

Give the world to you lady

But love is all I have to give

But my love is all I have to give

Without you I don't think I can live

I wish I could give the world to you

But love is all I have to give to you

Facebook, anyone?

You would be an outdated human being in our universe without a Facebook account. Seriously, you don't have any? It's either you are a loner, or a loser, or both, maybe? Hahahaha. Bapak aku yang umur 52 y.o pun ada kot. Takkan la korang takde, ek? Blerggghh.

The question is, how much are you addicted to it? The Facebook I mean. 6 hours? 12 hours? 24/7? Wow. Seronoknya hidup tak payah buat apa - apa sepanjang hari tetapi ber 'Facebok' ing for the whole day? Oh. Bekerja. Is that okay online using company Internet line? I thought most of employer doesn't allowed their employee to use Facebook while working. Tapi sekarang zaman dah maju. Dengan data plan bernilai serendah RM2 sehari, you may go online for the whole day using your smartphone. Anywhere. Anyplace. Untungla si Mark Zukerberg. Beliau goyang kaki  saham juta - juta while we're working to our bones just to pay our own bills. Okay. Exaggerates here. 

Dan, aku tak faham kenapanya yang penting bebenor Facebook sampai lupa the real world. The real people. The real shit you had around you. Kata mak aku, taksub bebenor dengan FB. Padahal beribu - ribu friend kat Facebook tu, berapa kerat je yang personally in person you really know? Tak payah cakap orang lainla. Aku pun ada akaun Facebook. Tapi kebanyakan daripada mereka adalah kawan - kawan lama, ex-schoolmates, ex-classmates, ex-roommates, ex-boyfriend. Itu pun ada yang aku ingat - ingat lupa. Friend request pending pun banyak lagi tak approve. Sebab? Rasa macam kelakar lak nak approve jadi kawan, tapi sebenarnya apa pun tak tau pasal orang tu. Tu belum lagi cerita tak nak approve friend request kat Facebook pun jadi issue on your real life. Seriously guys? Get a life. 

Pantang pergi mana - mana, share location, update status. Tag people here and there. Baru - baru ni aku ada tengok iklan kat Tv. Tak sure which channel. Yang minta kita berwaspada menggunakan laman sosial. You never knew if someone was stalking you. Waiting for a chance. To rob, to kidnap, nauzubillah. Mintak dijauhkan kita semua dari perkara yang tidak -tidak. To prevent dear, we never knew what will happens next. 

Moral of the story? Go for real. I mean literally. REAL. Get real friends, get real life, stop stalking, meddling with real people around you will help you gain self-confidence. Get active guys. Stopla main game merepek kerepek kat Facebook tu. Dan stop hantar aku request game jugak. 

Fast Update #1

Hai all. Its been wayyy too long not updating anything here. It's not like I had nothing to share, but so much to do yet so little time. Huuuuuuuu... By the way, Selamat Hari Raya for all who are celebrating it. Eh, raya lagi ke? *tengokkalendar. I'm not really celebrating Raya this year. Why? For some of the stupid reason, I had to work. Again. For three years in a row. But it's okay. I still went back to my hometown on 3rd Syawal which is good as well because all of my sisters also around. Nasibla kerja bahagian hospitality memang macam tu. Cuti raya punya pasal sanggup berbunuh. Hahahaha. Okay. It's a joke okay. Joke.


Sepanjang half year ni, so many things happen. I went for two (read : dua) interview in government section. And I had no good news eversince. Huuuuu. Dahla tak suka pergi interview. Boleh pergi 2nd interview tu aku tertinggal fail yang penuh dengan sijil bagai tu. Tau bila aku perasan? Sebab interview tu bulan puasa. So lepas sahur tu ingat nak lelap sekejap. Tengah layan mata, tiba - tiba macam terkena kejutan elektrik. Aku terus bangun bukak lampu selongkar beg. Tadaaaaa...! Nothing. Okay. Tau apa benda pertama dalam kepala aku masa tu? Tengok jam dah pukul 5:30 am. Kalau aku shoot balik PD, pegi balik dah 4 hrs. Sempat ke? Interview pukul 9:00 am kot. Haiyaaaaaa.. Last - last aku redha je. Lucky the interviewer didn't asked much about it. Sampai hari ni bapak aku tak tau aku tertinggal fail tu. Kalau dia tau, masak aku.


Haritu renew IC Grey. Hadehhh. Kopak kapik beta dikerjakan. Tapi demi kamu G. I'm willing to do anything. Nasib baikla yang kes kena cium dah settle. Dan aku ikut cakap bapak aku soh report polis. And now he's back in action! Yeayyy. *padahal dah lama kot settle.

Okay. Say no more but a goodnite. Doakan saya rajin menaip.

Second Year.

You didn't know about me, 

But I've heard bout you,

A lot from him, 

Who loves you more than anyone do.

Fear not,

As I've meant no harm,

You'll see the different side of me,

Time by time. 

For the second year, 

I wished the happiest for you,

Maybe this is all I can do,

As a stranger to you.

P/s : Happy 2nd birthday. 

JOURNEY OF YOUR OWN.

For the road had been known are bumpy,

Or the road that end hasn't been seen, 

Are you wise enough or lucky,

To choose between those scene.

Will you end up crying,

Or maybe forever smiling,

For all the tiring,

Emotional damage they bring.

Stay strong forever long,

As you might never known,

What life will bring along,

The journey of your own.

*credit : Mr Google.

RASA

Senyum tawar tanpa perasa, 

Nyata bikin gundah gulana, 

Wajah pudar tanpa cahaya, 

Buat hati tertanya - tanya. 

Tangan untuk kamu sambut, 

Bahu untuk kamu sandar, 

Tak bisa hilangkan serabut, 

Atau menelan rasa hambar.

Katakan padaku cinta, 

Ceritalah padaku sayang, 

Supaya hatiku tidak derita, 

Mengintai kamu dalam bayang. 

Hati ini merindu,

Gurau senda kamu.

LEISURE & PLEASURE.

Dah lama takde update. Sekarang kat kampung halaman. Spending my time. Lama gak rasanya takde cuti panjang gini. Balik pun sebab family buat kenduri doa selamat Sabtu lepas. Meriah tak meriah, ada macam - macam lauk kitorang served. Ada ayam goreng rempah, sup tulang, rojak salad Malaysia, labu masak lemak, rendang daging maman, ikan geli goreng sambal, kerabu mangga, pulut durian. Amacam, meriah tak? Rugila korang tak datang. Hahaha..

Ahad aku keluar dengan adik - adik aku. Tengok movie, Thor. Since I've watched Avengers, of course I'll look forward to watch this one. Even though si Fateha insist nak tengok Carrie, aku refuse. Nasib aku baik sebab Carrie punye showtime lewat. Thorbaeekkk!!!

 

Then Isnin lagi jauh kitorang jalan. Aku bawak mak aku, dengan adik - adik aku gi KL. Where to? IKEA Damansara! Ohhhooiiii...macam nak maut sesat bhai. Seriously 2 hours dalam kereta dok pusing. Harapkan GPS, macam tak sampai - sampai lak. Padahal kitorang sampai KL awal kot. Dalam pukul 10 lebih camtu. Jumpa IKEA dah tengahari. Apa lagi, semua excitedla nak try meatballs kat IKEA tu. Tengah syok dok ronda - ronda dalam tu, boleh pulak terserempak dengan makcik aku yang duduk Setapak. Bukan main meriah kitorang jadinya. Sampai berturut ke rumah dia. Dah makan, lepak baru la gerak pergi Cheras hantar Fateha balik. Sudahnya sampai rumah pukul 1200 pagi macamtu. Penat bukan apa. Sebab dok sesat dalam bandar KL tu. Beli barang bukan banyak mana pun. Saja seronok berjalan je.

Okeyla. Till next time then. Babai.

PANTUN KASEH SAYANG.

Pucuk pauh delima batu,

Anak sembilang di tapak tangan, 

Puas sudah hati merindu,

Pada tuan empunya badan.

Kalau ada sumur di ladang,

Boleh saya menumpang mandi, 

Sekali hati jatuh sayang,

Terus kekal dalam hati.

Tuai padi antara masak,

Esok jangan layu-layuan,

Walau dipisah dengan jarak,

Tuan sentiasa dalam ingatan.

Nasi lemak buah bidara, 

Sayang selasih saya lurutkan,

Bukan harta saya bicara,

Tapi kasih buat tertawan.

Pergi memetik daun selasih,

Tak lupa bunga kenanga,

Doaku buatmu kekasih,

Semoga kita kekal bersama.

KESAYANGAN.

Penyeri hidup sekeluarga,

Kecintaan teman dan rakan,

Kamu adalah kesayangan.

Walau kita berjauhan,

Namun ikatan tetap bertahan,

Kita kan kawan?

Gurauanmu sentiasa di ingatan,

Memori bersama takkan pernah dilupakan,

Kekal selama hayat dikandung badan.

Pergi kamu tanpa pesan,

Sebak tangis terpaksa ku tahan,

Semoga roh kamu aman,

Di kalangan orang yang beriman. 

*Taken from her FB since we don't have any pic together. :(

Specially dedicated to my best friend I've known ever.
Siti Maryam, you are always in my memory, and I'm gonna miss u.
Semoga roh beliau dicucuri rahmat, dan di tempatkan di kalangan orang yang beriman.
Al- Fatihah.


"Daripada-Nya kita datang,
 Kepada-Nya kita kembali,"

CLASS, ANYONE?

Honestly, what do you think when you've heard someone older (definitely seriously older) than you decided to further their study? Yeah, I mean when they decided to went for college, take any diploma course, or maybe degree. What would you say?

I definitely would be happy for them, and encouraging them to do the best for their study. Hey, it's not easy to start attending classes after a few years right? Trust me, I know. Hahaha..

Apa yang buat aku pelik, bila aku dengar orang cakap menda yang pelik - pelik. Well, bila aku cakap pelik, it sound so pelik itself.

"Ish, mengarut betulla. Dah tua - tua pun nak sambung belajar lagi?"

"Nak sambung belajar? Nak buat apa? Buat habiskan duit je kot,"

"Kerja pun tak tentu hala, ada hati nak sambung belajar. Boleh ke?"

Like, seriously? I mean, are you serious? Of course itu yang keluar kat kepala aku lepas dengar orang cakap macam tu. Kau ni mesti tak pernah baca buku kan? Atau mungkin masa sekolah dulu setiap kali kelas Agama kau ponteng. Rasulullah SAW pun menggalakkan umatnya menuntut ilmu sehingga ke Negeri China. (Correct me if I'm wrong). Tak kisahla umur berapa pun. Takkan itu pun tak tau?

Pada aku, kita tak tau bagaimana, kenapa atau apa sebenarnya perjalanan hidup seseorang itu. Siapa tahu dulu Gayah (bukan nama sebenar) terpaksa mengorbankan peluangnya ke universiti untuk bagi laluan adik - adik dia seramai 6 orang (exxaggerate) menghabiskan sekolah mereka?

Atau Pamela yang terpaksa bekerja keras demi menyara emakya yang sakit terlantar, dia terpaksa melupakan  hasratnya untuk pergi ke luar negara sebab takde orang nak jaga emak dia?

Ye, mungkin aku terlalu banyak menonton drama swasta. Tapi tahukah anda bahawa most the stories are based on the true story? Or reflexes most of the reality around us?

Peluang mungkin datang sekali. Tapi siapa tahu rezeki yang Tuhan nak bagi? Sebagai seorang yang masih muda, aku sangat bangga andai ada makcik - makcik aku nak sambung belajar. You should be proud of yourself. And I'm proud of you.

Ingat senang ke nak bukak buku balik selepas tinggalkan alam persekolahan bertahun-tahun? Kita yang muda ni patut rasa malu kalau ada niat nak mencemuh orang. Tapi entahla. Agaknya dah sinonim dengan darah daging kot. Tak boleh nak tengok orang lain lebih sikit, datangla penyakit PHD tu. Bukan doktor falsafah okey, tapi Penyakit Hasad Dengki.

Untungla kalau dapat sambung belajar. Ada ramai yang punya impian yang sama tapi tak dapat dicapai dek kerana kekangan masing - masing. It could be time, or money, or family or whatever. Who knows?

For anyone who are considering to further your study, you should be proud of yourself. Not everyone can do it, and may you have brighter future for that. For anyone who talks bad about you, just let them be. One day, they will regret for what they had said to you.

TWENTYFIVE.

Yes, as the caption you can see up there. I'm turning to 25 this year and I'm proud of it. Any objection? Won't listen to any though. Grin.

As the times goes by, feels like so many things I wanted to do but I'm not capable to do so yet. Well, bukanlah maksudnya aku tidak cukup umur (did I mention I'm 25 this year?) atau tidak cukup matang. Cuma mungkin kadang-kadang aku menjadi ignorant kepada kehendak  diri sendiri. Ah, selalunya memang macam tu. Simpan duit kemain nak beli itu, nak beli ini. Dan cukup, tiba-tiba macam sayang nak pakai. Sudahnya duit tu ke lain. Hahaha.

25 dan masih single adalah taboo bagi masyarakat Melayu actually. Not to mention who or who, but you know exactly what I mean. Pergi ke sana dan ke sini, tak sah kalau takde orang tanya bila nak menamatkan zaman single. Tak kisahla soalan ditanya secara direct or indirect, joking or sarcastic. Tapi soalan tu memang  adalah menjengkelkan. Lagi-lagi bila berkunjung rumah saudara-mara, there's cousins around your age yang semua dah dok sibuk jaga anak.

"Dok sibuk pegang anak orang je, bila Mak Yang nak tengok kamu punya pulak?"

"Kerja, kereta, semua dah ada. Tunggu apa lagi?"

"Kahwinla cepat, nanti dah tua takde orang berkenan,"

Selagi tak jawab, skema soalan boleh menjurus kepada yang lebih dahsyat. Kalau aku jawab, skema jawapan aku nanti bakal menumpahkan darah airmata pulak. Ceh.

Jodoh itukan rahsia Yang Maha Esa. Dia yang mengatur sebaik-baik perjalanan hidup kita sebagai hamba-Nya dan siapalah kita untuk menidakkan Qada' & Qadar yang telah tertulis? Sesungguhnya Allah Maha Mengetahui segala rahsia baik di langit, atau di bumi, atau yang berada di antara kedua-duanya. Aku cuma perlu bersyukur di atas segala rahmat-Nya, dan berdoa.

My life isn't perfect. And I'm not looking for a perfectionist either. I still have so many things to prove to myself, and to my parents also. If he can be with me through up and down, maybe there's a place for him somewhere here in my heart. Okay, now I'd sound mellow myself. Ppffftttt.

Well now. As I become older, I'd wish to be more mature and I can control my subconscious mind more. To save more money wisely, of course! Tell you one secret, I'm looking for a car. Hope everything goes smoothly. Oh, for all friends and family who had wished my birthday, thank you. Ingatan anda menbuatkan saya rasa diingati dan disayangi. Semoga kamu semua dilimpahi rahmat daripada-Nya.

Untuk kamu, ye kamu yang sedang membaca tu. Happy birthday dear. Even I'll might be the last person wish you, but I want you to know that you are always on my mind. May you have more and more years to celebrate. :)

UNTITLED II

Bila saya senyum,

Tangisan di dalam hati membunuh sedikit kemanisan.

Bila saya ketawa,

Retak hati ini membelah jiwa.

Bila saya diam,

Otak saya berfikir,

Ligat.

Cuma,

Orang tak tahu,

Dan tak perlu tahu.

Secret,

Should be remain as one.

Maybe,

Until one fine day. 

HI 2013.

It was quite late actually.
To be precise, it's Jan 24 and I'm a bit late to wish a Happy New Year to all.
Did I? Or no?

Well, last 2012 was quite a drama.
As you can read, there's a LOT of emotion through the years.
And there's more inside than what you can see.

I can't say I'm having a good year, but it didn't turn out to be half bad too.
How to say?
I was glad, and happy for what God has planned for me.
Allah surely know better, and I know I need to be thankful for the gift.

Honestly, I still couldn't achieve the dream I had for last year.
But surely this year, will work hard for it.
Because there's already staicases for me to climb up.
Just a little bit of patient, more hard-working, tawakal and doa,
Surely the result will be more than I've expected.
In sha allah.


To myself,
With love.

Untuk Si Kecil.

Hadirmu dinanti sekian lama,

Walau terletak diantara,

Nyata kamu punya,

Tempat luar biasa. 

Haykal nama diberi,

Bagaikan permata hati,

Sejuk menjadi penyeri,

Walau bukan milik diri ini.

Menjadi tanda tanya,

Bila kan berjumpa,

Mungkin esok atau lusa, 

Untuk bersua muka.

Kamu adalah misteri,

Dalam hati ini. 

Happy 1st Birthday Baby,

May you will have more and more birthday to come.

Love and kisses,

xxx.

COMMITMENT; WHAT SAYS YOU?

Ever think about marriage? Commitment? Tipulah kalau aku cakap aku tak pernah terfikir ke arah itu semua. I'm normal, and straight. Of course I would like to get married one day. I'm not going to tell you when, or who's am gonna spend my life with. Just a random talk as a single (not taken) woman as I am now.

Perkahwinan hukumnya adalah harus bagi umat Islam. So in other words, sesiapa yang cukup syarat-syarat yang telah digariskan dalam Islam, maka harus baginya berkahwin. In doesn't matter how old are you, or how young your partner is. When you're ready to have a commitment, there's nothing to be afraid of. Just go for it.

TAPI. Mentaliti orang zaman sekarang, takut bila berbicara soal perkahwinan. It's either they're afraid of the responsibility, or people talking bad behind them. Marriage is not only about having sex, you know? You are about to spend the whole life of yours together. Make it high or low, you have each other. Forever. 

"Aku nak kawen tapi aku takutla. Bukan apa, gf aku tu tak kerja. Kalau aku kawen nanti macamana nak bagi dia makan? Gaji aku ni pon cukup untuk makan pakai aku sendiri jek,"

"Aku nak kawen, tapi selagi bf aku tak sediakan rumah dengan kereta. Aku tak nak kawen dengan dia. Oh, did I mention he need to have his OWN house?"

"Aku suka anak aku finally nak kawen, but then bakal isterinya tu orang Perak la pulak. Ish, aku tak berkenan pulak dengan orang belah-belah sana tu,"

Pernah dengar? Happens to some people you know? Untuk Situasi 1; aku faham dilema mereka. Honestly, me myself once had a thought just exactly like that. Speaking of expenses right? Bills, cars, house rent, etc. One can't hardly afford if they had only a thousands or two for salary. Let alone after having a child. Things ain't that easy. Tapi janji Tuhan itu pasti. Rezeki ada di mana-mana. 

Situasi 2 : Memang tak kawenla kau sampai bila-bila! Unless you've found a filthy rich guy, then I won't question you anything. Orang nak pakai duit selepas kahwin, dia sibuk nak itu ini sebelum kahwin. Camana? Bersabar sikitlah dik ooii.. Rezeki tak datang bergolek. What is wrong kalau you start one by one? Baby baru lahir pun tak terus berlari kan?

Situasi 3 : Anak yang nak kahwin, tapi mak-ayah menyulitkan keadaan. Makcik, pakcik. Sanggup ke tanggung dosa anak ke hulu ke hilir tanpa ikatan yang sah? Apa salahnya kalau mereka daripada rumpun yang lain? Sekurang-kurangnya, dia ada niat yang baik ingin mendirikan masjid. Sepatutnya sebagai ibu-bapa, haruslah menggalakkan pernikahan untuk mengelakkan maksiat. Ini macam terbalik pulak.

My says? If you are ready to take the responsibility, why not you go for it? Marry him / her. Let other people say everything they wanted to. Mulut orang bukan kita boleh tutup kan? At least bila dah kahwin, hubungan tu dah sah di sisi agama. Bukan itu ke yang paling penting? So, what says you?

SABAR; I.

Sabar. Sesuatu yang sangat sukar untuk dicapai sesetengah orang. Sebab itulah dalam Islam, sabar itu merupakan sesuatu yang sangat dituntut. Bahkan dikatakan bahawa sabar itu adalah sebahagian daripada iman. Wallahualam.

Bila berdepan dengan orang tua, tak dapat dinafikan sesekali siling kesabaran bagaikan mahu runtuh diasak perasaan marah, geram sakit hati dan sebagainya. Namun berbaloikah? Ditambah pula dengan hakikat bahawa itu adalah emak/bapa mentua kita?

Aku tak nafikan once kita dah berkahwin dengan seseorang, secara automatik kita pun berkahwin dengan keluarga mereka. Getting together doesn't sound as easy as ABC. Just imagine if you have to stay under one roof together with your-in-laws. Some might think it was quite economical if you didn't own your own house yet. But does it worth? You have to sacrifice a few things altogether with your economical state.

1. You won't have your own privacy. 
Jangan mimpila kan nak main aci kejar dalam rumah, nak menyanyi-nyanyi sambil masak, nak pakai seksi-seksi untuk husband kalau bukak pintu bilik je dah nampak mak/ayah mentua lalu-lalang kat dalam rumah. Nak kena jaga tatasusila, aurat lagi dengan ipar-duai dalam rumah. Tak selesa kot.

2. Cannot be a lazy bum. 
Akan ada orang yang mungkin perli-perli, cakap makan dalam bila tiba-tiba hari tu anda bangun lewat; atau masak tak sedap; atau tak kemas rumah; atau tak menolong di dapur. Selama ni duduk rumah sendiri mak kita memang takdela nak sound makan dalam punye, tapi mak mentua? Takkan sama macam mak sendiri.

3. Save your expenses.
Tak perlu keluar duit untuk sewa rumah, bil api, bil air, Astro, or whatever things happen to be in your house. Maybe kena keluar sikit untuk dapur jela kot. Depends. Kalau dapat mentua yang jenis tak kisah, lagila untung!

4. Favourite In-Law.
Once dah jadi favourite menantu, memang syiok! Semua pon indah je. Hahaha.. Nak makan itu, dapat. Nak makan ini, dapat. Tapi itulah, kalau kahwin dengan adik ipar semua perempuan pon nasiblah. Kena compare pulak kan. Lagi hampeh kalau MIL actually tak berapa berkenan kat kita. Haaaa, jadila macam ala-ala cerita Ibu Mertuaku tu ha. Ish ish ish.

Honestly, mak aku pernah pesan kalau aku kahwin esok-esok, jangan duduk satu rumah dengan MIL. Banyak yang susah daripada yang senangnya. Biarlah kita bersusah-susah janji tak menyusahkan. Tak kiralah rumah mak aku, atau mak dia. Sama je. Tak dapat banglo bertingkat-tingkat, apartment mewah, ruamah teres biasa pun bersyukurlah. Biar belajar hidup berdikari. Sampai bila nak bergantung dengan family kan?


Hint :: Serial. TBC.